12 Rules of love: The key elements of a loving, committed and sustainable relationship
1. The commitment to love Everything starts with knowing what it is you want – that is what you want to achieve. So you must begin with a...
Managing conflicts in real time
When engaging with your partner imagine a virtual dashboard appearing before you – this is your own private gauging system to manage your...
The story of us
Every couple represents a story. There is a beginning a middle and an end to every relationship, even if it until “death do us part”. The...
The conscious relationship
Many couples run their relationship on automatic. This can be fine but when troubles arise it can be very troublesome to know how to get...
Six key personal skills to bring to a relationship
To be truly able to handle a relationship we need personal skills that should be well developed by your mid 20s. These key skills are...
A Mountaineer's Guide to Relationship Success
A mountaineer’s guide to relationship success To achieve the heights of what relationships have to offer you need to pack a bag for a...
Good boundaries make good relationships - how good are yours?
I often see couples who are frustrated with each other because their expectations are not being met. But what is a reasonable expectation...
The futile and fatal search for control
Sandra was furious. She had caught Tom checking her phone message once again. “ I just did it to reassure myself - its no big deal” Tom...
Relationship Hygiene
“Oh my God - this place is a pig sty!” “You always leave your wet towels on the floor – I can’t stand it any more!” How many...
